Living Apart Together: Being a couple but not living together

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Living as a couple is the big step in a relationship. Rather than marry or eat Sunday with your mother-in-law, moving to live together is the big change in every relationship.

Yours ceases to be yours and becomes ours. Our bed, our bathroom, our shampoo, our space. There are people who need their own space, and they do not need to share a bed, shampoos or laundry to feel comfortable in a relationship.

It is called Living Apart Together and many more couples do it than you can imagine. In fact more and more.

What is living as a couple Living Apart Together?

In a Living Apart Together (LAT) couple there is no obligation or desire to live together under one roof. They support the relationship in what is best for each of them and there is no concrete or stipulated way to demonstrate a commitment.

Everyone does what they want with their money, time, interests and friends and at the same time maintain a relationship in which they work and develop as a team – but without living together.

The LATs do not understand the rights or pressures of society, it is for couples that:

  • they know themselves well
  • They are sincere about their values, priorities and vision of life
  • they feel comfortable spending time alone
  • they reflect on themselves want the best for themselves, for their partner and for the relationship they have in common
  • consciously choose what is best to keep your love alive

Why consider a LAT relationship?

You love, adore and deeply appreciate your partner, but your lifestyles, needs and preferences are very different. Maybe one or both of you have:

  • A deep need for personal space, time and tranquility
  • A toxic and dependent past relationship
  • Very different ideas about order, aesthetics or material goods
  • A desire to keep passion and mystery alive
  • A deep love for your partner and prefer to keep your daily life away from her
  • Very different schedules that interrupt sleep patterns

Does Living Apart Together have benefits?

That only you know, but consider it. It may be just what you need to keep all the good things you like about your relationship and let go of all those that do not contribute anything.

But to do it well you need a lot of sincerity with yourself and your partner, make clear the rules of the game and be mature with your emotions and hers. Don’t forget that a relationship is a team that fights side by side for a common good. 

You love, adore and deeply appreciate your partner, but your lifestyles, needs and preferences are very different. Maybe one or both of you have:

  • A deep need for personal space, time and tranquility
  • A toxic and dependent past relationship
  • Very different ideas about order, aesthetics or material goods
  • A desire to keep passion and mystery alive
  • A deep love for your partner and prefer to keep your daily life away from her
  • Very different schedules that interrupt sleep patterns

Does Living Apart Together have benefits?

That only you know, but consider it. It may be just what you need to keep all the good things you like about your relationship and let go of all those that do not contribute anything.

But to do it well you need a lot of sincerity with yourself and your partner, make clear the rules of the game and be mature with your emotions and hers. Don’t forget that a relationship is a team that fights side by side for a common good.